   'Marriages and families'
Urpi: Burama, you believe in love, right? But, what d'you think about marriage and all that stuff, and choosing partners and well. I mean, I don't know what I think about it all.
Burama: To me marriage is like two families getting together, and wives usually go to live with the husband's family, so really it's like joining another family. The families have to be similar though, and get on okay, because it's not like the couple is going to live on their own.
Mohamed: Well, quite a few Moroccan couples I know have gone off and lived on their own. Their marriages are more like the way most people in Spain live their marriage life, but the parents still take a big interest in who the partner will be.
Urpi: So, the families don't mind?
Mohamed: Well, they spend a lot of time with their families anyway.
Urpi: So what about dealing with problems and stuff? Don't they have any privacy?
Mohamed: Well, still, when anyone has any problems, it's the family who helps out with money or looking after the kids or whatever.
Isabel: But is not necessary to have an arranged marriage for the family to help, anyway. At least in Spain!
Burama: In my family when we get married we get really friendly with our husband's sisters and that, I think that's better than just being in a couple.
Isabel: But what about, like, choosing someone in the first place?
Burama: Well, obviously I'd want to, you know, fancy whoever I marry, and obviously I'd want to get on with them and like them, and yes, before you ask, maybe I do like Maruxa, but that's completely different to marrying someone, isn't it?
Urpi: Ah hah! At last! He's finally admitted it!! So you wouldn't like to marry her then?
Burama: Shut up! Some of you only think about one thing! I believe in love, but not love at first sight. 'Love' is something that comes later. And what really gets on my nerves is when some woman who's been badly treated gets in the news and people think all arranged marriages are like that.
Isabel: It's not as if wives in non-arranged marriages are never badly treated... Or is it?

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